Answering The Tough Questions - 04.24.00

Last week, I wrote a piece where I talked about answering honestly in response to questioning. In response, I asked for readers to submit questions of their own for me that I would then answer. Below likes the questions (in no particular order), following by my (tried) insight. As I thought, there are a lot of relationship questions (as if I'm the person to ask on the subject), but I tried to do my best.

Who's the one that got away?
Although it may seem like the easy way out, I'm going to answer this question by saying that there is definitely more than one. Over the course of my college career and a couple times afterwards, I've had occassions where I've been infatuated by someone, only to never say anything at all to them. My personality just wouldn't allow it and I was too shy to ever say anything to someone that I did like. It doesn't stop there, though, and I actually knew in person many of those that I felt got away. Again, though, the problem seemed to be that I simply didn't say anything.

On two seperate occassions, I will say that it seems like at least the problem wasn't mine, but many different cases of bad timing. Either the person I was interested was going out with someone else, or I was going out with someone else, or both of us simply didn't put two and two together and realize that we were interested in the other until it was too late. Of course, after it was too late, we discussed these very feelings and slapped our collective foreheads knowing what we possibly missed out on. Every time I feel like I'm reaching a point where I'm actually getting better at it, I just end up freezing up again. It's an endless cycle I need to break someday.

What has been your most sensual (not necessarily erotic but it could be) experience?
I think that this would be one of two different occassions where I've been kissing someone for so long (literally hours and hours on end) that we both had to stop and re-hydrate because we were so sweaty and dehydrated from just kissing and rolling around. Then, after drinking water or rasberry tea, we started again.

If you had no responsibility and no thought for the future, what would be the one thing that you would do in life?
I'd definitely travel more. I know that's kind of a cliche' answer, but I see pictures and hear different things literally every week about countries that I'd like to visit. Iceland, Japan, Australia, China, Italy, Sweden (again), and even some beautiful parks in the United States that I haven't gotten the full view of. Just travel, take pictures, listen to music and write. If I could somehow get paid to do all 4 of those things at once...bliss.

Would you sacrifice your own life to save your brother's life?
Since this is sort of a theoretical question, I have sort of a theoretical answer for it. I do know that I had a dream once that was incredibly real. In the dream, we had been captured by someone who was going to put one of us to death and let the other one go free as a warning to others. I took one look at my little brother and volunteered myself. I'll leave it at that.

Give me five tell tale signs that someone you are interested is interested in you, and then give me five signs that someone you are interested isn't interested in you in the same way that you are interested in them, ie. romantically.
I'm probably the last person that should be asked this question, as I never know myself. The only obvious tell tale sign I know that someone is interested in me is if they kiss me, or I kiss them and they kiss me back. Up to that point, I unfortunately have no clue. In terms of someone not being interested, I've been known for taking everything as a bad sign. I'd say if the person doesn't look you in the eyes very much, if they never return phonecalls, and if they resist any physical contact, it would be a bad sign. Those should be obvious, but I really have no clue on that one. If I did, I'd probably write a book and make big money.

What was the toughest decision you ever had to face? What decision did you make?
I think I've had things relatively easy in the tough decision department thusfar in my life. Either that, or I simply don't allow things to get too tough in my head. Going on toughest decision, though, I'd have to say it was whether I should transfer after my sophomore year of college to a cheaper school, or bite the bullet and take a lot more in student loans. I took the loans and stayed where I was. Things turned out fine, though.

If you were stranded on an island and could only bring five albums with you. what would they be? (along with a stereo and electricity to play them, I assume)
I like these kinds of questions, because I'm a music freak (in case you hadn't noticed), but I never really think about it. The first thing is that I'd need 5 very different discs for 5 very diffent moods. Here goes.

  1. Portishead - Dummy - Although there would be nobody to seduce, I'd still need seductive-sounding music. It's syrupy good.
  2. Red House Painters - Songs For A Blue Guitar - A beautiful, introspective singer/songwriter album.
  3. Junkie XL - Saturday Teenage Kick - A rocking, big beat album that makes me want to dance every time I hear it.
  4. Dirty Three - Ocean Songs - A sad, sweeping album that can put me to bed, comfort me and make me feel more at ease.
  5. Super Furry Animals - Guerrilla - A rolicking gem of a pop album.

Are you happy?
At the moment, I'm doing pretty well. There are always things that I feel I'd like to change, but they're always ones that I'm in control of and I have to stop complaining as soon as I realize this and enact the changes that will get me to a point where I'm happy. Lonely sometimes, but fairly happy.